In the face of the beautiful-awful-tragic-absurd-mundane-heartbreaking-impossible-wonderful,
all I can think to say is:
and even this...
“I record my life, sifting and trying to separate what is real from what I’ve dreamed. I have decided not to tell you what is fact versus what is unfact primarily because (a) I am giving you a portrait of the essence of me, and (b) because, living where I do, living in the chasm that cuts through thought, it is lonely… come with me, reader. I am toying with you, yes, but for a real reason. I am asking you to enter the confusion with me, to give up the ground with me, because sometimes that frightening floaty place is really the truest of all. Kierkegaard says, 'The greatest lie of all is the feeling of firmness beneath our feet. We are most honest when we are lost.' Enter that lostness with me. Live in the place I am, where the view is murky, where the connecting bridges and orienting maps have been surgically stripped away.”
— Lauren Slater
“I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken, and the one that could always brighten up your day even if she couldn’t brighten her own.”
[Image: A picture of several smiling white people lined up in front of a van that says “save the storks” with a picture of a stork on it, underneath a bridge.]
I hear stories of abortion & I see myself falling to the ground in tears begging for the life of the child, desperately offering to adopt it instead.
Then I remember I am nineteen. With no job. No husband to help me raise one. Nothing.
And so I remember to pray earnestly.
This organization—Save the Storks—offers women the opportunity to see their child before aborting it. Three out of five mothers change their mind and do not go through with the procedure.
“We seek to persuade every abortion-minded mother to choose life and to share with them the good news of Jesus.” Amen.
YAY THREE OUT OF FIVE PEOPLE ARE SUSCEPTIBLE TO EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION. WOOOOOHOOO!
Save the storks, are you fucking serious? Pregnant people aren’t fucking storks. God mind your own fucking business and stop shoving your Jesus bullshit on people.
“I hear stories of abortion & I see myself falling to the ground in tears begging for the life of the child, desperately offering to adopt it instead.”
What does this mean, you “see yourself” having this melodramatic reaction to other people’s medical decisions? And if you really feel this way, what does your age, employment status and marital status matter? THERE ARE BABIES’ LIVES ON THE LINE! Didn’t you see the ultrasound?
Storks. Who are the “storks” exactly? “Save the storks” doesn’t even make sense. As usual, the women are completely erased from pregnancy.
Also, does the would-be-adoptive-parent OP not see the irony in “Then I remember I am nineteen. With no job. No husband to help me raise one. Nothing.” as the reason they just can’t adopt maybe being the exact same reason a pregnant woman wants to end their pregnancy?
Let me tell you guys something: Before this whole medical school thing, I was a stage manager and I worked on a lot of shows in high school, college, and professionally. I dealt with a lot of people with different personalities and people who were difficult to work with, so I know what it looks like when someone is being over dramatic.
And the OP’s opening line is so on the level of being over dramatic and ridiculous that I cannot even truly describe the level of eye rolling that I just displayed. Like on a scale of 1-10, my level of eye rolling was a 15.
I just experienced a level 15 eye rolling…all directed at you, dripplet.
Also, the bolded is pretty much what I thought, too. The cognitive dissonance present in the anti-choice movement never fails to astound me.
Here’s what really pisses me off about this (besides, you know, all of it): the OP could be doing so much to help babies and children that are already here if she refocused all the energy expended on worrying about other people’s reproductive decisions. She could make hats/blankets/booties for babies in the NICU at a local hospital. She could volunteer with organizations that help children: I know someone who volunteered to watch children at a domestic violence shelter while the mothers were at job interviews or counseling sessions or taking classes. She could help out at a day program for special needs kids. She could volunteer at a children’s hospital. She could work with a program like Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Hell, if she’s passionate about it she could go to school and make a career out of helping kids! She could study to become a teacher, a social worker, any number of careers in the medical field. But instead, she chooses to use all that time and energy to manipulate people into having children that they didn’t want or weren’t in a position to have. I guess that’s easier than doing something that actually helps living, breathing individuals.
It comes as no surprise to me that:
a) all these folks are white, young, and probably middle to upper middle class anti-choice Christians. And that half are people who (at the very least) read as men. Or: the people who have the least to fear when it comes to reproductive justice because whether they have an abortion or not (or whether a partner has an abortion or not), society is going to support them the most when it comes to an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy.
b) That they say “save the storks”. Apparently pregnant people aren’t even PEOPLE. They’re being basically told that they have no part in their own pregnancies. Because instead it’s about saving a stork who delivers the baby rather than dealing with the reality that babies don’t get delivered by storks. They get delivered by people with uteruses who go through A LOT - physically, emotionally, mentally, economically, socially, etc - when that happens and that forcing someone to go through with it by manipulating them and ripping away all options is not “saving a stork”, it’s harming a human being
c) That the entire basis of this is the devaluation of the actual WORK and difficulty that goes into being pregnant. The devaluation of reproductive work done by people with uteruses (OF ALL GENDERS). Because if we valued that work, if we thought it was important and difficult as a society we wouldn’t force people to do it when they didn’t want to.
d) There is no practical benefit or support offered to those who leave this van. There’s no mention that there’s follow up care or support. No referrals to, say, support organizations or therapists for those who are pregnant as the result of rape or incest, no offers of childcare or even free fucking baby gear. Nope. Just emotional manipulation and a pregnant person is sent on their way, dumped back into their problems except now they’ve been guilted into making a complicated situation even harder. Because their problems (lack of money, resources, support, etc) didn’t go away, but one of their possible options was made that much more inaccessible to them.
Fantastic commentary above.